Now we've already mentioned the generals of our discussions. After that, I would like to use an example in an article to discuss some of the skills while counseling youth cases with you. If you can get an access to the article, you are welcomed to read it briefly first, Although it is in English, it is short, and also very simple. You can try it out to see what comes up to your mind for this. It doesn't matter if you can not get this article, I can simply tell you about the case and what it deals with. In this article, it mainly describes one thing what seems not serious for us happening in a resettlement-oriented school. However, it may cause serious conflicts between adults and fourteen-year-olds because of our improper handling. The point of this conflict is an iPod. However, you may not know what is an iPod, iPod is a former product of iPad before it comes to market, as this article is a bit long ago, it takes iPod for its example. This iPod, what the kid has in his hand, as a high-tech 3C product, is not allowed to be owned by kids in this school. So the staff members asked the kid to hand it over while he refused to do so. The reason is very simple, "Every time I hand over something, I will never get it back." But the two staff members said "No, you just must hand it over because it is a rule." Both of them can not hold on, just at this time, a staff who is new to school arrives. Making use of the so-called LSCI technology, a possible conflicts between them is resolved. What is LSCI? Its full name is called Life Space Crisis Intervention, that is to say, making the crisis into a learning incident, growth, and opportunities to change, and in this way, to establish a positive and positive relationship with young people. This skill requires great emphasis on the worker itself, as a neutral intermediary, Except for assisting young people in perceiving the problems, the most important thing is to let young people having an opportunity and a platform to express their thoughts. That is to say, a youth in such an event, should be regarded as an independent individual, He has his/her own feelings and opinions, with more capability for themselves to find the best solution to problems. In other words, what he emphasized is "Working with them", instead of "Working for them". With this concept, we can better reflect the youth's subjectivity and value, Through such opportunities, young people can also be involved, learning skills of solving problems, being responsible and self-controlling at the same time. So, during this process, they will help their children to focus on main issues, confirming what the teenager believes, describing his instincts, insights, motivation to change behavior, and the outcome of the decision goals. In the insight phase, it is to let youth to understand his behavior, in fact, is to make things worse for him/her. In fact, it is just to let yourself into a stuck stalemate if he/she keeps holding on a hostile confrontation or contend for ways to deal with that. In addition, it also helps the youth to think about other alternatives. If you do not hand over the iPod, is there any other ways to solve it? At this stage, it can make he/she to have the opportunity to think, so, silence is a very important skill for the staffs. The staff members is a choice for assisting young people developing ability solving problems, instead if helping him to find the answer to the question. Let's go back to this case. Why this kid refuse to hand over iPod? Through the technology just mentioned, the kid told the staff that he was living here for some time. As long as a staff said his behavior was wrong, he was asked to hand over things and was told the things will be returned after he perform well. Actually, those things never give back to the kid. Moreover, if there's something in his hand, then the staff suspect that it was stolen by him. Why do they always think those things are stolen by the him? So he is very unwilling to accept the management model of the school. Thus, he said he will not surrender because he protests against this policy and their unfair treatment of him. Children is unwilling to tell the staff who sold iPod to him. That is, he wants to protect the classmates in school, for the person should not sell him iPod. Is it much like teenagers' sense of honor in peer relationships? So in this process of stalemate, this case highlights a simple, but also important fact. In hands there is things not allowed in school, while the school staffs are on behalf of authority. ask the kid to hand over things, suspect he committed stealing, and blame him of violating regulation. The child does not want to compromise. In this example, the kid is highlighted that he is a violator, a bad boy, while the his inner thought and feelings of not to hand over things does not be well understood. Although the new staff is not familiar with the kid, he used proper techniques and proper methods to understand why the kid's idea do not want to hand over things. The new staff also told the kid, how to get back his things after confiscating, at the same time not to involve the seller. Why the example success? We saw the staff use empower, use a strategy that respects children's ideas, care about what he cares about. In fact, what he cares about is very simple, that is, you confiscate it, and I will never get it back, as well as the unfair system within the school agency. Through working with him, the staff assists the kid to escape from the original view, rationally examines the problem with him, and let him understand that there is no advantage for him in deadlock. Also let the kid understands that he will suffer losses if he does not obey the rules in the system. Help him to use different and balanced approach, instead of emotionally rebelling. At the same time, the staff lead the kid to realized that compromise is not lost. There is no lost and win in this situation. For the kid, whether if handing over the iPod is not a win or lose. However isn't it the same for the staff while concerning a win or lose? While working with the youth, why is that "win or lose" debate not important? Through such a case, I hope everyone can rethink that when adults talk with youths, we should ask them to obey us, or let them make choices, make decisions and respect their feelings? It depends on your wisdom and ability. Hopefully these sharing will enable everyone to learn what we should do is most appropriate when we encounter similar conflicts.